Feeling overwhelmed by the demands of today and concerns about the future?
Do you find yourself overthinking the simplest decisions?
Has a feeling of overwhelm caused you to lose productivity or a sense of control in your life?
Are anxieties, fears, and worries leading you to feel on edge or easily agitated?
You may find that you spend an inordinate amount of time processing potential consequences of your decisions, dwelling on the worst-case scenario rather than the most probable outcome. In fearing the worst, you may find that you become paralyzed when making a choice, ultimately doing nothing as a result.
Perhaps your anxiety extends outward into social situations and the environment around you. You may constantly feel ashamed or concerned about how other people are perceiving you, causing you to avoid certain situations where you find it especially difficult to engage with others. It may be that honesty or even slight confrontation with others causes you to panic. So instead of asserting yourself, you’re finding that you bypass challenging conversations and opportunities for intellectual and emotional growth.
All of these worries can accumulate, causing emotional, mental, and physical discomfort. You may find that you are restless, physically tense, or unable to focus. Perhaps you are struggling with sleep issues or feeling fatigued. You may feel as though you simply can’t become relaxed or get into a mental space where you can recharge.
When such symptoms of anxiety fester, it can feel like you are stuck on a roller coaster that never stops, creating a sense of overwhelm and lack of control over your life. However, this discomfort does not have to be experienced or navigated alone, as therapeutic treatment makes relief from anxiety possible.
Comparison Culture Keeps Many Of Us From Living Up To Our Full Potential
Though it can feel daunting and insurmountable, anxiety is one of the most common and manageable disorders affecting adults and children alike worldwide. The Anxiety and Depression Association of America (ADAA) estimates that 40 million adults suffer from anxiety in the US alone.
Anxiety is the result of myriad personal, environmental, and societal factors. For instance, when considering the gendered expectations of men in our culture, it’s easy to observe that men are socialized to be strong, decisive, and in control. A perceived lack of these qualities can lead to excessive worry, as we begin to compare ourselves—both consciously and unconsciously—to the able and masculine figures we see in television, advertisements, and social media.
Moreover, generational concerns tend to create more existential dread in younger populations struggling with anxiety today. For millennials and Gen X-ers, there is an added pressure to maximize experiences and a sense of purpose at home, at work, and in our relationships with others. Increasingly concerned with obtaining careers that are perceived as meaningful or world-changing, these generations face an expectation that each facet of life must align entirely with societal, professional, and ideological norms. Keeping up with others in this regard furthers our anxiety and fear of failure.
Anxiety often runs concurrently with what psychologist Tal Ben-Shahar has coined as an “arrival fallacy,” or the idea that if we can accomplish a certain task or goal, we will be liberated from the clutches of fearful and anxious thinking. However, this line of rationale fails to acknowledge that once one of our many concerns is resolved, another will simply take its place.
While anxiety is increasingly common and nuanced, it is also a manageable condition that can be alleviated with the proper treatment. Though you may be too entrenched in your own anxious mindset to see the proverbial forest through the trees, the gentle and unbiased perspective of a counselor can help free you from the burden of struggling so needlessly.
Anxiety Treatment Paves The Way For A Life Of Acceptance And Acknowledgment
The lifeblood of anxiety is avoidance, but therapy provides an environment to help you feel supported, empowered, and accountable in changing the core ideology that is counterproductive to your growth. By confronting the negative beliefs you hold about yourself, your environment, and those around you, you will gain the insight and practical skill set needed to decrease anxiety.
Our introduction to one another will include a brief consultation outlining your presenting problems and goals for therapy. From there, we will undergo a full session wherein you will provide further detail about the ways that anxiety is impacting your life, along with history of some of the people, situations, and behaviors that have contributed to your anxiety in the past. The main focus of our first meetings will be to develop a strong rapport and relationship, ensuring that my approach is a good therapeutic fit to meet your needs.
We will continue the process of treatment by working to reduce your baseline anxiety. If we can thoroughly examine the thoughts and behaviors that contribute to fearful thinking, we will be able to get you to a place wherein you can identify your feelings more objectively and rationally. From there, we will develop the tactics needed to help you successfully navigate and confront known stressors—as opposed to avoiding them—both now and in the future.
Using an individually tailored approach that draws from both control-mastery theory as well as cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), I will help you to understand how your self-perception has developed and pinpoint the areas of your life where damaging thoughts are creating uncomfortable feelings and maladaptive behaviors. In addition, I use mindfulness techniques to help you identify what you are experiencing and how you may be able to process your thoughts and emotions more productively.
When you reach the point during counseling wherein you are able to discriminate between what you can and cannot control, you will find that relief from anxiety is, in fact, achievable. And while you may be concerned with the ever-growing list of concerns that affect daily life—between work, relationships, and worries about the future—therapy will provide you with a safe place to slow down and gain traction on the things that are truly important while also providing you with the skills to move forward with confidence.
For over a decade, I have seen the positive impact that counseling can have in helping clients to gain clarity about the areas of life that are under their control, and those that aren’t. The obsessive worrying created by your anxiety is ultimately getting in your way. I invite you to use the opportunity of therapy to re-examine your priorities and readjust your expectations so that life can begin to feel more manageable, harmonious, and worry-free.
Perhaps you have concerns about seeking therapy for anxiety…
I don’t have the money or time to invest in anxiety treatment.
If you are concerned about making time or financial commitments to therapy, I encourage you to consider the cost of not seeking help. If you are struggling with anxiety now, the continued agony of strained relationships, reduced productivity, and constant worry will likely increase without intervention. Moreover, therapy brings the chance to increase your earning potential by lowering your anxiety and increasing your self-confidence.
If time is a concern, I can be very flexible with scheduling. I offer both daytime and evening online appointments in order to accommodate your schedule and reduce the hassle of a commute. If you’re still not sold that you can find time in your week for anxiety counseling, I encourage you to consider that taking time out of your life now will improve the quality of time in your life moving forward.
How does talking actually change things?
The objective, nonjudgmental, and trained perspective can allow you to see your anxieties and fears in a new way and help you develop solutions to reduce them. I like to use the old adage, “A problem solved is a problem halved,” in that fully disclosing what burdens you in a supportive space helps to free up the mental and emotional energy that anxiety drains from you, allowing you to grow and make progress in your life.
I worry about losing control of my emotions in front of a stranger; I am concerned I will look foolish or weak by discussing my fears.
I get it. When I started my own therapy, I had a lot of hesitance about becoming vulnerable with and opening up to a stranger about my anxiety. However, the process of being heard and supported by someone else helped me to overcome my fears.
I believe that true strength lies in acknowledging and confronting the parts of yourself that you have been avoiding so that you may begin the process of becoming the best version of yourself possible. My goal as a therapist will be to provide a nonjudgmental space for you to explore thoughts and fears, working at a pace that feels comfortable for you.
Stop Avoiding And Start Embracing An Opportunity For Change
If anxiety is creating a sense of overwhelm or damaging your self-esteem, therapeutic treatment can help you to feel more in control of your life. For more information about my practice or to schedule a free, 15-minute consultation, email me or call (415) 963-3536 today.